FINDING THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE, and Making it last!

Before I found the love of my life, I would ask people who seemed happy in their marriage: “How did you find him/her?” Or “How did you know he/she was the ONE?” Many times the couple would answer, “You just KNOW!”

My question would always be: “But HOW did you know?”

Sometimes their answers left me confused. My friends and I would discuss this at length, trying to understand the “magic” of finding the right person. We read a lot of books, and at times became even more confused.

Do you wonder if you’ll ever find “the ONE”?? Are you afraid of making a mistake in your choice of a mate? Or maybe you’ve seen too many marriages fail, and are discouraged with the whole concept of marriage.

1. Become a Christian not just a “Religious nut” without direction from God, and live by God’s principles.

For those of you who aren’t Christians, you may wonder why I’ve put this first. “What does believing in God or being a Christian have to do with having a good marriage?” you may ask. First, we are not saying that non-Christians cannot have a decent marriage. Also, I am painfully aware of the statistics that show that “Christian” marriages end in divorce just as often as other marriages in American society. (More on that in a minute.)

But for marriage to be the best it can be, and to have the best chance of success, it must be built on the foundation of Jesus Christ. Here’s why:

God created you, and He also created marriage. In order to experience life the way God intends it to be, we must live according to His directions. If we try to live any way we want, it’s like thinking that any old road will lead us to a specific place – it just doesn’t work.

Your destination: a great and fulfilling marriage. Your road: a relationship with God through Jesus Christ.

Marriages are built on love. God wrote the book on love (the Bible). In fact, God is love. (1 John 4:16). He loves you and me with a kind of love that is so deep, so passionate, that we may never fully understand it. It’s the kind of love that seems “too good to be true”. When we receive this love from God through a relationship with Him through Jesus Christ, we can then give to others some of the very same kind of love. God wants to fill us with a love for our spouse that transcends human love. This is the God-kind of love.

3 Characteristics of “the God-kind of love” that are essential to a good marriage

  1. Unconditional love. Most “love” we see today is conditional. Conditional love says, “I love you (as long as you continue to make me happy, or at least as long as it remains convenient for me to love you).” Unconditional love says, “I love you no matter what. You can’t earn it, and there’s nothing you can do to deserve it. I choose to love you, and nothing is ever going to change that.” God is the source of true, unconditional love. That’s the way He loves you and me. When we receive that love from God, we can then love others the same way. You won’t be able to truly, unconditionally love your spouse without having the love of God poured out in your heart by the Holy Spirit. (Romans 5:5) Marriages built on unconditional love are happy, fulfilling marriages.
  2. Commitment. God promises that He will never leave us or forsake us. (Hebrews 13:5) Likewise, God created marriage to be a commitment for life. That’s the way a Christian should approach marriage. Too many marriages are begun with the underlying understanding that if things get difficult, divorce is always an option. “Sometimes things just don’t work out as planned, right?” Here’s the problem: there are always going to be difficulties in life. There are going to be issues that need to be worked through and forgiven in every marriage. But if the marriage is not founded on a deep sense of commitment, then every time things get tough, the marriage partners start thinking about how they might be happier elsewhere – they may even mention the possibility of divorce. This is extremely harmful to a marriage, because it undermines commitment, which is a key foundation of any marriage. When two people are truly committed to each other, they are implicitly committed to working through their problems, not running from them. It’s always more comfortable in the short term to run from a painful situation, isn’t it? With a real commitment to each other, both partners know that they are “on the same team” – and both are willing to work through any issues that come up. And there is no problem that God can’t remedy!
  3. Unselfish love. Our culture teaches us to put ourselves first and to focus on making ourselves happy. But the Bible teaches something different. True love is unselfish – it puts the interests of the other person first. “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for each other.” (1 John 3:16) Can you imagine the joy we would experience in marriage if both partners were truly more interested in serving the other rather than himself/herself? It’s within our grasp – but only when both partners have the transforming power of Jesus Christ in their lives.

It is VERY IMPORTANT to understand HOW to treat your relationship:The idea is to handle your relationship JUST LIKE A NEWBORN BABY,JUST HOME FROM THE HOSPITAL…you must care for a relationship the same way..WHY? Because “Fleshly Love”IS COMPLETELY BLIND TO FAULTS AND BLEMISHES,which would normally WARN US TO DROP THIS NIGHTMARE BEFORE IT HITS US HEADON…..its like wearing a blindfold and ear-plugs on the freeway at 5pm,and we all know how that could end..don’t we? You cannot TRUST FLESHLY LOVE ALONE to give your soul over to someone for life..TRUE GODLY LOVE GOES INTO IT WITH BOTH EYES OPEN,USING THAT GRAY MATTER GOD GAVE YOU TO THINK WITH,TAKING INTO ACCOUNT ALL THE PRO’S AND CON’S AS WELL AS YOUR FUTURE WITH THIS PERSON (THAT ONLY GOD KNOWS..SO ASK HIM FOR GUIDANCE).

So it’s not enough just to go to church and “do the Christian thing”. As we mentioned above, the divorce rate for people who identify themselves as “Christians” is about the same as for non-Christians. However, the divorce rate for committed, obedient Christians who believe the Bible and practice what it says, is much lower than the national average. BECAUSE THERE ARE SO MANY FALSE BELIEVERS IN CHURCH,YOU MUST BE SPIRITUALLY AWARE and know what you believe for REAL…..That’s where the difference lies – not just professing Christianity but LIVING it. If we can learn to let this God-kind of love start working in our lives…the divorce courts would go out of business. Too many people go to church, but they don’t practice the principles. They carry their Bible, but they don’t apply its message to their own lives. Jesus said that those people are building their house on the sand. When the storms come, the house crashes to the ground. (Matthew 7:24-28) You don’t have to search very hard to see this scenario playing out before your very eyes.

A word about divorce. Please understand that I AM not saying that all people who get divorced are bad Christians. Every case is different. Sometimes, wonderful, committed Christians end up married to someone who does not share the same values and divorce is forced upon them. This is not the place to discuss under which circumstances divorce is appropriate. The point is, Jesus welcomes everyone who is willing to come to Him, and He is willing to forgive every sin and heal every hurt. Being divorced does not make you a bad person, and it should not ostracize you in your local church. If it dose FIND A BETTER more loving fellowship!

Here is step # 2 in how to find love that will last a lifetime:

2. Use your brain! Not just your heart!

Some Christians believe that finding a mate is a kind of “mystical” experience. For example:

You’re at a party. While sipping your coke, you look and see the man of your dreams staring at you from across the room. Then you hear a booming voice from heaven say, “This, my child, is the man I have destined you to marry.” The man walks over to you, and asks you on a date. On your third date, he proposes marriage. You get married and live happily ever after.

I have heard stories that were almost as dramatic as this example (minus the booming voice from heaven). Occasionally, the marriage works out great, and is truly a “match made in heaven”. However, more often, in stories similar to this, the marriage ended up being extremely rocky, and often ended in divorce.

A TESTIMONY FROM MARLA JOHNSON: “I (Marla) dated and became engaged to someone who, after the engagement, began manifesting severe mental problems (such as expressing desires to kill our pastor, for example). His psychotic tendencies had been totally hidden from me and everyone he knew – including the Christians in his church and at his Christian college – in fact, he was in leadership at both places! Until he started acting crazy, I had believed that he was “THE ONE”. I had even received “prophecies” at church that he was God’s choice for me. This was confusing, to say the least. He had appeared to be everything I ever wanted. Thank God I eventually broke that engagement – but I was left with a problem: how will I ever be able to trust again? And how will I ever know for sure that someone is “THE ONE”? I was traumatized by the whole experience, and really struggled in my relationship with God for a while after that. It took a long time before I realized that there were warning signs I had been ignoring because I wanted to get married so badly. I had ignored the Lord, and had not really even prayed seriously about the decision to become engaged to him. ”

The Bible doesn’t specifically explain how to go about finding a mate. But it does offer plenty of godly wisdom that can be applied to the subject. Most importantly, we need to seek God regarding marriage (and all other important decisions in our lives). The Bible says to acknowledge God in all our ways. (Proverbs 3:6)

I believe that finding a spouse is not as mystical as many Christians think. I know many people who made the decision to marry someone based solely on emotions – in other words, how do I feel about this person? It is so easy to become infatuated with someone while you’re dating, and then once you’re married you realize you have overlooked some serious character flaws in the person.

Click To Download Of course you should be in love with the person, but in addition to listening to your heart in this process, we advise you to also use your BRAIN.

One of the main problems I’ve seen with people in this process is that they say they want to know God’s will, but they quickly become so emotionally and physically involved that they are not able (or willing!) to hear God’s real answer. Many times people ignore the still, small voice of the Lord telling them that something isn’t right. Here are some practical ideas for how to use wisdom as we search for a mate:

  1. Look for character first. It’s important to be physically attracted to your mate. It’s a bonus if you have a lot of things in common. But the person’s character is far and away the most important factor in finding a good mate. Never, never, never skimp on character. Please!
  2. If you meet someone you’re crazy about, try to purposefully limit the amount of time you spend together at first. This will help you not be overwhelmed by your emotions.
  3. Avoid becoming overly involved before you get to know the person’s character. Otherwise, you can be blinded by your emotions (and hormones). Character can only be tested over time. Don’t have sex, or anything close to sex, until after you’re married.
  4. Let your friends and family (people you trust) get to know the person, and ask them for their honest opinion, even if you really don’t want to hear it. They will generally be a lot more objective than you, and they want you to be happy (at least we hope so!) There is safety in a multitude of godly counselors. (Proverbs 15:22) No matter how difficult it is, take their opinions into consideration, and pray about it! But, ultimately, the decision is up to you and you have to be led by God. Don’t let others make the decision for you, even if there’s a “Thus saith the Lord” attached!
  5. Get good pre-marital counseling. Consider pre-engagement counseling. We’re not talking about just getting a “rubber stamp” from your local church. If your pastor doesn’t have time to thoroughly delve into issues with you, find a godly counselor who does. It’s well worth the time. Good pre-marital counseling can also help uncover some of the “red flags” in number 6, below.
  6. Look out for “danger signs” – character deficiencies that can be devastating to any relationship!
    1. The person is addicted It sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised what people overlook when their emotions get involved.
    2. The person is not serious about following God. You must determine this by their actions more so than their words. Words can be cheap. If the person is not living for God currently, but says they want to follow God, take an objective look at their life. Are they heading in the right direction? Why are they not living for God now? What evidence (not just words) do you have that this will change in the future? Beware the person that says, “I want to live for God, but I just can’t – without you!” Before you marry this type of person, you want to see real, lasting, measurable change in their life over a period of time. If you don’t see it before you get married, you probably won’t see it after you get married, either.
    3. The person is dishonest. Does the person lie to you? Does he/she hide parts of his/her life from you? Is he/she overly secretive? Dishonesty is a major marriage-killer because it destroys trust. It is a serious character flaw.
    4. The person can’t keep a job. This could be indicative of a poor work ethic, or some other character flaw such as irresponsibility or rebelliousness. Again, what you see before the wedding day is probably what you will get after you are married. Take a good look at how your prospective spouse functions in various environments such as work or church. If there is a pattern of failures or broken relationships, be careful! Don’t blindly swallow the excuse that it’s always the fault of the boss/pastor/friend/etc.
    5. The person demonstrates a severe lack of financial discipline. Does he/she have a healthy attitude towards money? Is he/she a good steward? Does your prospective spouse have a lot of debt? If so, you may want to find out why. If what you see concerns you, discuss it before you make a life-long commitment to be joined-at-the-hip financially with this person.
    6. The person refuses to acknowledge his/her own mistakes or faults. Often, the tactic of blaming others is used here. Be careful! I would think long and hard before considering marrying a person who cannot be honest about his/her own shortcomings. As issues come up in the course of the dating relationship, each partner should begin making sincere, heartfelt efforts to correct areas of his/her life that fall short of being Christ-like. My counsel is this: Before the marriage, I would like to see both partners 1) identify and confess an area of weakness in their life that is harming the relationship, 2) take the matter to God, and 3) exhibit real, lasting, positive change. This does not mean that your spouse must be perfect (no one is). BUT, you want to see that each partner is willing to work on issues and has enough of a relationship with God that they are able to demonstrate real change. Believe me, more problems will surface later. But you know you’ll be able to handle whatever comes up if you are confident that both of you are committed to facing and working through issues. The Christian life is one of continuous growth. Marry someone who is committed to that process of becoming more like Christ every day of his/her life. And be one yourself.
    7. The person treats others disrespectfully. If they treat you badly while they’re still trying to “win” you, it’s likely to only get worse once you’ve “sealed the deal”. Real love treats others with respect.
    8. For more information of this type, try Henry Cloud and John Townsend’s book Safe People.
    9. 3. Strive to become the best person YOU can be

If we’re going to expect our future spouse to follow hard after God, we need to DO THE SAME, and The time to start is now. As an added bonus, as you become healthier spiritually and emotionally, you’ll attract better prospective marriage partners! This is the KEY,if you are not walking in Christ as he desires you to then YOU WILL ATTRACT THE SAME OLD WORN OUT PEOPLE OVER AND OVER..Remember that YOU are the MAGNET who will draw them to you,so you must ask yourself “Do I want to be the MAGNET or do I want to ALLOW GOD TO BE MY MAGNET FROM WITHIN ME?”

If you’ve been hurt badly in former relationships, ask the Lord to help. Deal with the pain. Also, pray about issues from your past or behavior patterns which may hinder you in finding God’s best for you. Do you seem to repetitively pick people who are bad for you? Do you pick people who all have the same major flaw?

Truly surrender the issue of marriage to God. God wants to be first in your life. He loves you so much, and He has a wonderful plan for your life. Ask God if there’s any ways in which your attitudes towards marriage are unhealthy.

Finally, be patient. There’s never any hurry to get married. Wait until you know you’ve found the right mate. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being single. It sure beats being unhappily married. If your heart-felt desire is to be married, we are confident that God has someone really good out there for you. Don’t settle for something mediocre. Keep seeking God and improving your own relationship with Him, practice the things I’ve talked about in this blog, and you, too, can find a love that will last a lifetime! I found her and I have never regretted it for 12 years now!

A Prayer to Know and Fulfill God’s Perfect Will for our lives!

“Surely His salvation is near to those who reverently and worshipfully fear Him [and is ready to be appropriated] that [the manifest presence of God, His] glory may tabernacle and abide in our land.”
Psalm 85: 9

A call to joy – for salvation belongs to our God!

Arise! Arise, for the glory of the Lord has risen upon us! Let the Lord rise over us and let His glory be seen upon His people! The hearts of those who see His light will swell with joy. They are radiant with the joy of the Lord!

Oh, Lord, we recognize, today, that as the redeemed of God, we have cause for great and exceeding joy! Without Your life we are nothing. Who could live and not see death or who can deliver himself, in his own strength, from the powerful hand of death? We were dead in our sins – we were doomed. Yet You, in Your wonderful love, mercy, and grace have redeemed us from useless ways of living! You have set us free to walk in newness of life because of the price paid with the precious blood of Christ. You have purchased us, and we are Yours because of Your great love! Our names are written in the Lamb’s Book of Life, and because of this we rejoice! We remember Your salvation so we may recover cheerfulness, encouraging strength, and so we will always know joy and gladness while we live! Our salvation is due to our God, Who is seated on the throne and to the Lamb! To God and to The Lamb we owe our deliverance!

Encouraged and strengthened with the joy of the Lord, we are filled with longing to see Your glory achieved in us as we fulfill Your purposes for us. Not unto us – but to Your name be glory! Far be it from us to glory in anything but in the cross of Christ. To You we dedicate our lives. We are not our own. Let us glorify You here on the earth by completing the work You’ve given us to do.

Making the most of our redeemed lives

Teach us to number our days that we may have hearts of wisdom. Cause us to know and appreciate the measure of our days and realize how transient our stay in this world is. Teach us – and help us conduct ourselves in a manner pleasing to you and worthy of You throughout our lives. We ask for strength to live with purpose. Let us live worthily and accurately; not unwise and foolish. We choose to be wise, sensible, intelligent people who fear the Lord and walk in His ways. Help us to make the most of our time – refusing to be vague, thoughtless and foolish. Give us understanding. Raise up a people who have ears that hear and eyes that see, and who firmly grasp the will of the Lord.

Our desire is for Your name and Your glory to be lifted up in our lives. Let Your work, the signs of Your power be revealed to Your servants and Your glorious majesty to their children. Let the beauty, the delightfulness and favor of the Lord God be upon us; confirm and establish the work of our hands. Yes! The work of our hands – confirm and establish. For unless You establish the works of our hands our labors are in vain.

Chosen for His Glory

Before we were formed in the womb, You knew and approved of us as Your chosen. From the womb You called us; You have made us instruments in whom You will be glorified. We possess this treasure, the divine Light – in human, earthly vessels – so the grandeur and exceeding greatness of Your power may shine forth, bringing glory to You. Reveal, the wealth of Your glory in dealing with us, the vessels of Your mercy. You have purposed, in Your kindness to love us so we might live for the praise of Your glorious grace. Continue to flood our hearts with light so we can truly grasp the hope to which You have called us! Let us grow in understanding the immeasurable, surpassing greatness of Your power in and for us who continually believe! Let us truly grasp Christ in us, the hope of glory!

His Loving Plan

For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome.

Jeremiah 29:11

You desire the best for mankind. We know based on Your Word, You desire that no one should perish. Even while we were sinners Christ died for us. You have promised to supply our every need and to care for us. You are looking and longing to be gracious to us. You have great things prepared for those who love YOU!

O give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; for His mercy and loving-kindness endure forever!

Oh that men would praise [and confess to] the Lord for His goodness and loving-kindness and His wonderful works to the children of men! For He satisfies the longing soul and fills the hungry soul with good.

Oh, that men would praise [and confess] to the Lord for His goodness and loving-kindness and His wonderful works to the children of men!

For He has broken the gates of bronze and cut the bars of iron apart.

Oh, that men would praise [and confess to] the Lord for His goodness and loving-kindness and His wonderful works to the children of men!

When they are diminished and bowed down through oppression, trouble and sorrow, He pours contempt upon princes and causes them to wander in waste places where there is no road.

Yet He raises the poor and needy from affliction and makes their families like a flock. The upright shall see it and be glad, but all iniquity shall shut its mouth.

Whoso is wise [if there be any truly wise] will observe and heed those things; and they will diligently consider the mercy and loving-kindness of the Lord.

Ps. 107; 1,8,9,15,16,21,22,31,39-42.


Seek First the Kingdom of God

You are good, with complete impartiality, for You are not a respecter of persons. Yet, in our land, in our own lives, and in the lives of those around us we see our desperation for You. Your word says, ‘When the Lord arises upon us His glory will be seen on us.’ ‘When He comes to be glorified in His saints He will be marveled at in His glory reflected in all who believe.’ We long to see more of Your glory revealed in us, Your saints, Your consecrated people. We long to see more of Your intervention. Has unbelief limited the working of Your mighty power? Forgive us Oh, God!

You said if Your people would humble themselves, pray, and seek Your face – repenting from wicked ways – You would hear from heaven and bring forgiveness and healing. We confess we need you to heal our land, we need you to heal our lives, we need you to heal the situations we see directly around us. We need an outpouring of Your power into our lives and into the lives of those around us. We believe Your eyes are open and Your ears are attentive to our prayers. You have told us to seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness and all we need will be added unto us. Your face Lord, we will seek. Earnestly we will seek You; You are our God. You have never forsaken those who seek You. Our souls long and faint for You in a dry land in need of the rain of Your spirit. Quench our thirsty spirits with the Living Water!


We know Your hand is not shortened that You cannot save. We know You are faithful to Your word. We will trust You to fulfill Your promises for You are who You say You are, and You will do what You say You will do. We humble ourselves, seek Your face and remove from our midst yokes of oppression – wherever they exist. We take away the finger pointed in scorn and unrighteous judgment toward the oppressed and the godly. We take away every form of false, harsh, unjust and wicked speaking.

We repent for sins of self-centeredness and idolatry. We rise out of the graves of self-centeredness! Let Your life fill us, for You alone give life and breath to all! We humble ourselves, turning away from self-centeredness and You revive the spirits of the humble. We repent for relying on the strength of our own minds and reasoning to save us in difficulty. We repent for assuming knowledge of You suffices for relationship with You. We repent for having this form of godliness but denying the power thereof. We yield ourselves to You and ask You to deliver us from any pride or rebellion which would prevent us from fulfilling Your will.

{{{Ask the Lord to purify your heart and sanctify your desires. Truly seek His face. Pour your heart out to Him – He is a refuge for us}}}

Help us Lord, grow in sensitivity to how our sin grieves You. Give us godly sorrow that leads to true repentance. Thank You that you heal our faithlessness and love us freely. We receive Your correction knowing You correct us in love. There is no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus.

Protection from the enemy and strength for battle

In order to fulfill Your purposes for us, we recognize we must be on guard against the enemy. We choose to be vigilant and always cautious, knowing we are not wrestling with flesh and blood, but against world rulers of this present darkness. We gird ourselves with the belt of truth, put on the breastplate of integrity and righteousness, we shod our feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace, we lift up the shield of faith, we take up the helmet of salvation, and the sword the Spirit wields – the Word of God. We pray on every occasion and in every season. We listen to You and You are an enemy to our enemies. As our own submission and obedience is secured, we stand in readiness to punish insubordinate spirits. We ask for wisdom and discernment for recognizing things not of You, so we are alert to Satan’s antics.

{{{ Seek God for discernment and use the Sword of the Spirit to cut off the enemy. Bind and curse the work of the enemy in the situations you bring to the Father; pray His will be accomplished }}}.

We praise and thank You! For in Christ’s name we have authority over all power of the enemy; You have overcome the world! Christ is seated far above all rule and authority and has all things under His feet. All angels, authorities and powers are made subservient to Him. By virtue of bring in Christ we have been raised up together with Him! We rejoice for we are in Him and He is Head of all! We abide in the shadow of the Almighty, Whose power no foe can withstand. Your right hand O Lord, is glorious in power! Your right hand shatters the enemy. You teach our hands to war, and give plenty of room for our steps under us, so our feet do not slip. You give us courage and strength by the power of Your Holy Spirit to pursue our enemies and overtake them. We will not relent until they are consumed. In Your power and with Your word we become sharp threshing instruments. We thresh mountains, beating them small and making hills like chaff.

Because he has set his love upon Me, therefore will I deliver him; I will set him on high because he knows and understands My name [has a personal knowledge of My mercy, love, and kindness – trusts and relies on ME, knowing I will never forsake him, no never]. He shall call upon Me and I will answer him. I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him and honor him. With long life will I satisfy him and show him My salvation!”

Ps 91: 15-16

Be Ever Filled

Seeking first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, we pursue You with our whole hearts. Let us not wander in aimless ignorance or willfully step aside from Your instruction. Show us Your ways. Teach us to do Your will, for You are God. Let Your good Spirit lead us, convincing and fully assuring us of everything willed by God.

Like Paul we recognize nothing good dwells in our flesh. For the desires of the flesh are opposed to the Holy Spirit. We long to do what is right and walk in Your ways, but cannot perform it. But, Thank God, You will deliver us from the shackles of death! For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has freed us from the law of sin and death!

We seek You and Your strength. Let us be continually filled with Your Holy Spirit so our desires and even our impulses are driven by a Godly unction. Daily we pour out our confessions and cast our concerns upon You. We cannot bear these burdens alone. We pour out our hearts and place all confidence in You; You are a refuge for us. As we seek You in our weakness, You fill us with Your strength. You must fill us, for it is not by our own might or power but by Your Spirit that we will accomplish Your will. We continually fail when we try to change our ways through self-determination. Or else, we become passionless and mechanical legalists. Help us to pursue You in simplicity; trusting and humbly, with childlike faith.

Faces Set Like Flint

We set our desire on things that gratify the Holy Spirit. We choose the narrow path which leads to life. We choose life and not destructive, fleshly ways of the lower nature. We resist conformity to carnal ways of living and thinking. Rather, we pursue You with our whole hearts and renew our minds in Your word. We delight ourselves in You, obeying Your commands. In all circumstances we strive to keep attitudes of gratitude for Your ways. As we behold You and require Your presence as a vital necessity, we are changed. For where Your Spirit resides, there is liberty and freedom from bondage! As we seek You and behold You, with a repentant heart and unveiled face, we are constantly being transfigured into Your very image from one degree of glory to another! You change our fleshly desires, even fleshly impulses – for by Your Spirit, You work within us the will and desire to accomplish Your good pleasure. It is Your work within that makes us complete in every good work, strengthening us, and equipping us with all we need to do Your will.

For the Lord God helps Me; therefore have I not been ashamed or confounded. Therefore have I set My face like a flint, and I know that I shall not be put to shame. Isaiah 50: 7

Our Hope in Him

Let Your very presence, become our greatest desire. Let our hope be found in You. With our hope in You, we will be ever filled, for You never leave the righteous forsaken. Though, hope deferred makes the heart sick, a desire fulfilled is a tree of life. Now, because of You, our hopes are no longer deferred, our hearts are made whole, for You fill our desire.

“Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give You the desires of Your heart!” Psalm 37:4

“Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you.” Matthew 6:33

We trust you will equip us so we fulfill Your purposes for us. You have given us the precious, priceless gift of Your Holy Spirit! We thank You for Your Spirit. Your Holy Spirit, Your very presence within us, gives us power to love in all situations. Your Spirit fills us with joy and gladness. Your Spirit gives us peace in all circumstances. Your Spirit enables us to be patient – waiting on Your timing in all things. Your Spirit fills us with goodness. Your Spirit causes us to be filled with faithfulness and belief. Your Spirit enables us to be humbly gentle. Your Spirit gives us discipline and self-control!

What grace, what unmerited favor that You do all this for us! We seek You as for hidden treasure. For in You, all the treasures of divine wisdom and insight into Your ways and purposes are stored up and hidden. We rejoice as we seek You knowing we will find You! We rejoice for You have given us the Comforter as a Counselor, Helper, Intercessor, Advocate, Strengthener, and Standby who will teach us all we need to know to walk in Your perfect will! We have the mind of Christ! Oh, let us not take this for granted by grieving or quenching Your Holy Spirit in any way!

Pouring Forth

With the comfort You have given us, we are enabled to comfort others. The promises in Your Word that have made our own hearts leap with joy and hope – will also cause joy and hope in those for whom we intercede and those to whom we minister. Make us undefiled conduits of Your love; vessels wholly consecrated to the Master’s work. We are not sufficient in our own ability; but You have qualified us as ministers and dispensers of a new covenant! Not of the law which kills, but of the Holy Spirit which ministers life! We seek to do the will of our Father as we walk by the Spirit, having our conduct controlled by the Spirit. Be glorified in Your Holy people! Be glorified in the redeemed! Be glorified! Be glorified!

May our prayer never become an idealistic aspiration. As we believe, we trust God’s word is effectually at work in us, exercising its superhuman power. We believe our God is faithful to fulfill His promises. (see I Thess. 2: 13)

“So shall My word be that goes forth out of My mouth: it shall not return to Me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please and purpose, and it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.” Isaiah 55:11


A call to joy…

Is 60: 1-3; Is 60: 5; Ps 89: 47-48; I Peter 1:18; Rom 8: 10-11; I Pet. 1: 19; II Cor. 5: 17; I Pet. 1: 23; Rom. 6:4; I Cor. 7: 23; Luke 10: 17-20; Ps 39: 13; Rev. 7: 10; Ps. 115:1; Gal. 6: 14; John 17: 10; John 17: 4

Making the most of our redeemed lives

Ps 90: 12; Ps 39: 4-7; I Pet. 1: 17; Eph 5: 15-17 Ps. 2:11; Is. 50: 4-5; Prov. 8:33;

Ps 90:16-17; Ps 127:1

Chosen for His Glory

Is. 49: 1-3; Jer. 1: 5; Rom. 8: 29-30; Ps 139:14-18; II Cor. 4:7; Rom. 9: 23; Eph. 1: 5-6; Eph.1 :12; Eph. 1: 17-19; Col. 1:27

His Loving Plan

Jer. 29: 11; II Pet. 3:9; Rom 5:8; Jer. 32: 38-41; Is. 30:18; Matt 6: 25-34; Matt. 7: 7-12; I Cor. 2: 9-10; Ps 107: 1,8,9,15,16,21,22,31,39-42

Seek First the Kingdom of God

Matt. 22: 16; Acts 10: 34-36; Eph. 6: 9; Col. 3: 25; Is 60:2; II Thess. 1: 10; Judges 6: 13; Matt. 13: 58; II Chron. 7: 15-16; Matt. 6: 33; Ps. 27: 8; Hosea 10: 12; Zech 10: 1; John 4: 14; John 7: 38; Is. 59: 1,2; Is. 58; Ez. 37: 9-10; Acts 17: 25 Rom. 6: 23; Is. 57: 15; II Tim. 3:5; Hosea 14: 4; Titus 2: 14; James 4: 8; John 17:17; I Thess. 5:23; Ps. 62:8; Rom8:1; Prov. 3: 12

Protection from the enemy and strength for battle

I Peter 5: 8-11; Eph 6: 10-18; Ex 23:22; II Cor. 10: 3-6; II Cor. 2:11; I Peter 3: 22; II Cor. 2:11; Luke 10: 17-20; John 16: 33; Eph 1: 17-23; Eph. 2: 1-6; I Pet. 3: 22; Col. 2: 10-15; Ps. 91; Ex 15: 6, 9-11; Ps 18: 31-50; Is 41: 10-16; Matt. 17: 20

Be Ever Filled

Matt. 6: 33; Ps. 119: 10; Ps 25: 4,5; Ps 86:11; Ps 143: 8, 10; Col 4: 12; Rom 7: 14-25; Gal 5: 17; Rom. 8:2; Eph. 5: 18; I Cor. 3:3; I John 2:27; Ps. 55: 22; Ps 62:8; Is. 40: 29; II Cor 12: 10 Zech 4: 6,7; Luke 18: 17

Faces Set like flint

Rom 8: 5,6; Ps 37: 4; Matt. 7:14; Deut. 30:19; Eph. 4: 22-24; Rom 12: 2; IICor 3:17-18; Phil 2: 13; Heb. 13: 20-21; Is. 50:7

Our Hope in Him

Ps. 27: 4; Ps. 9: 10;; Prov. 13: 12; Gal 5: 22-23; Col 2:3; I Cor 2: 16; John 14: 26; Eph 4: 22-32; I Thess. 5: 18-23

Pouring Forth

II Cor 1: 4; II Cor. 3: 5-6; John 6: 38, 40; John 5: 30; II Thess. 1: 10-12; Is 25: 3

Remember the marrage relationship is a merging of two personalities into “ONE FLESH” Your body,soul(Mind) and MOST important your spirit’s are in a state of merging together as one,the longer you are together the MORE ONE YOU WILL BECOME. The Spirit of God himself becomes the mesh that holds you together IF you put HIM FIRST!

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I am a FULL GOSPEL MINISTER an Ex-Black Witch and Substance abuser brought to Faith in Jesus Christ in 1979. I believe that the Bible teaches that ALL BELIEVERS SHOULD PROSPER JUST AS THEIR SOULS PROSPER IN THE WORD OF GOD! Jos 1:8-9 "This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success. Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest." 3Jn 1:2 "Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth." These are my personal post writings in which I give you what's on my heart. I do not apologize for what I think in any way, I am an Historicist in my prophetic interpretations of prophetic events in history and Pro-Life as far as my views on this I am proud and strong!

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